Book Club Discussion Guide


1. Do you think all people get wiser as they get older? Why or why not?

2. When you think of people you know who seem "unwise," what is it about their behavior that makes them seem that way? What would it take for them to change?

3. Think of some wise people in your life, a generation or so older than you. Have you ever sat down and asked them questions like this? What would happen if you did?

4. Which of these twenty questions speaks most to you at this stage of your life? How did you react to the responses given by the nine women to this key question?

5. Which of these nine women did you relate to the most? The least? Why?

6. In the introduction, the author attempts to define wisdom. How would you define it differently?

7. What's your view on happiness? Is it an inborn trait, a response to circumstances, or a choice?

8. All these women are involved with their church. To what extent is their advice relevant to people who are not Christian or who are not involved with organized religion?

9. These women had widely varying responses to the question about raising teenagers, yet similar responses to that about relating to adult children. Why do you think that is?

10. Most of these women said the best way to deal with adult children is to refrain from giving advice unless asked. Yet some adult children need or want advice. Under what circumstances should parents give advice to their adult children?

11. Almost all these women made major life changes at midlife. Do you think this is harder or easier for women to do than men?

12. Which advice or story struck you as particularly useful or memorable?

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